No one is completely unscathed from life’s challenges. It hurts when we are mistreated by others and we subsequently (and often automatically) develop a defense strategy to protect ourselves from being too vulnerable. The good news is we are able to keep our self emotionally safe; the bad news is we are now further disconnected from people in our lives.  We become unable or unwilling to test the possibilities of changing circumstances. It's a conundrum – what protects us also limits us.

Connection is rooted in vulnerability. Before we can really connect with others, we first need to be able to recognize our vulnerabilities, both physically and emotionally, to protect ourselves from life’s inherent or perceived threats. 

So how do we embrace our vulnerability? First increase your awareness of what feels true for you today. Start by listing your physical vulnerabilities, as those are easier to define and acknowledge how they may limit your activity. Then make a list of your emotional vulnerabilities (harder and requires both courage and honesty). 

Understanding how your emotional vulnerabilities affect how you relate to others is paramount to your emotional health. Then decide if the accompanying defense mechanisms (protective strategies) you have in place still serve you today. What might you be willing to test or let go of?

Knowing in advance that we all have vulnerabilities, and that there are similarities in our human experience, is a fundamental step in giving ourselves permission to share more openly with those whom we are comfortable.  When we share our stories and experiences, we create an opportunity for building trust and empathy. Our ability to empathize is foundational to creating meaningful relationships and lasting bonds with others. 

During a Possibilities seminar we’ll explore our vulnerabilities and learn that they are not a sign of weakness but are the cornerstone to empathy and creating connection with others.